1. Be well-groomed. Brush your teeth, floss, shower, wash your hair, and apply acne medicine (if you have a problem with your skin) daily. Don't wear your pants off your butt, it's not that attractive to the majority of girls. This is essential if you are even going to approach an attractive girl. Wear clean, attractive clothes (if in doubt, get an older sister or close female friend to help you in this department).
2. Have a good attitude. No girl likes to watch a guy put on a show, so be yourself. Don't try to impress everyone - girls like humble guys. At the same time, a sense of humor is always a plus.
3. Show respect. If you respect everyone and give them their space, they'll all respect you. With girls, it works even better. If they see you respecting everyone, and not getting pushed around while you're at it, they will be reassured that you will treat them right. Be kind to all.
4. Have good conversations. Don't talk about how you beat Mile High Club on Veteran... unless you know them well enough that you know they are at least semi-interested (otherwise, it's just a big jumble to her). Try to aim for you both to be speaking 50% of the time, but make sure that you are saying something worthwhile; it's not attractive when only one person talks endlessly.
5. Show interest in her - let her talk. The #1 mistake when talking to a girl is focusing on yourself. Girls are way more comfortable when they talk about common interests. Ask about their interests, hobbies, favorite books, music, etc. but not in that stalker kind of way. If she asks you a question, answer it in a few, short sentences and then redirect the question back at her. This engages her in the conversation. When in doubt, compliment her.
6. Try flirting! If you both make eye contact, do not be the one to look away, but do not stare for too long. When you both make eye contact, just give a slight smile. She may look away and she might blush a little. Be careful though; you don't want to stare her down. A good move is to look away, and if she likes you she will shoot you glances. Watch for that.
7. Respect her friends and their ideas and opinions. Always speak highly of her and never talk trash about her. It will damage her reputation and yours and she'll possibly dump you. Of course, her friends are going to tell her that you trash talked her. Hopefully then it will work both ways - she will be tolerant of your friends. Be careful not to compliment her friends too much, however. Example: You may say "Your friends seem cool. We should hang out with them and my friends some time, I think they'd get along". You may not say "Sally is so hot. She has the nicest eyes".
8. Have your friends be nice to her It's a fantastic thing when your friends don't make a total fool of you. Warn them ahead of time and avoid topics pertaining to embarrassing moments of your past or awkward jokes that make very little sense.
9. Be polite to her parents. Be kind to everyone, especially them. Don't be too over-the-top charming with the parents, however, or they'll think that you have something to hide.
10. Don't criticize her. Unless she asks for constructive criticism.
11. Be romantic, but not over the top. If you've been dating for a while you may attempt a grand romantic gesture (note: "A while"=a month MINIMUM) otherwise, you'll look like a stalker.
12. Start talking to her casually. If you don't know her, make friendly conversation. Ask for the time, and/or compliment her watch.
13. Do not play "hard to get". Sure, you'll get their attention for a day or two then after a while, the girl will end up frustrated or think that you hate her for whatever reason, and she'll think you don't find interest in her anymore. Or if she likes a guy who's like that, her friends might not like you because you're acting like a jerk (this happens way too much).
14. Be careful with what you say. Remember, Hotty McHotterson is not your pal Lenny. Do not discuss bodily functions in her presence, or make jokes of a sexual nature unless she starts doing so.
15. Hum a few bars of a song she likes around her. She might think of you whenever she hears that song. And she'll probably be impressed by your good taste in music. Some girls have actually dumped guys or stopped liking guys when they insulted the music they like. So, it's OK not to like her music, but don't be insulting her favorite singer/band! Try to agree with her as much as possible but not so over the top that she knows your not being yourself. Make sure the song is not overtly feminine however. For instance, a Killers song is okay, an Ashley Tisdale song, not so much.
16. Start an inside joke with her! She will feel included and become closer to you. It also gives you an easy-to-come-up-with conversation starter. Try not to overuse it and kill the joke.
17. End later meetings with a hug, or plans to meet some other time, if you can.
18. Do not tell her that you "like her". Ask her out. If she rejects you, all is well. Example: You: "Betty, want to go to dinner on Saturday night?" Betty: "Sorry, I just think of you as a friend" You: "Oh, no offense. A bunch of us were talking about going, and I thought you might like to join us."
19. Try to get her attentions to your plus and away from minus , but be original !!!
20. Touch her ocassionally, like on the shoulder or hand.(but be sure to do it in a non-threatening way)!
21. Opposites attract. Be a courageous gentleman, not coy like a lady might be. Stand up for her,


TIPS
# f you hold a girl around her hips, it will seem like a romantic move for her. Girls LOVE romantic moves. She will feel important, and that someone actually likes her. If she says to stop, stop. Nothing is worse then then a girl seeing you as a harrasser. If she acts a little odd, stop. Don't take it personally because some girls just don't know how to act around guys. Do it another day if this happens.
# Show sympathy and affection. If the girl you really enjoy being around is sad or hurt, give her a quick hug. Don't just say that you're sorry and you hope she feels better. Hold your left arm around her waist, right hand at the base of her neck or holding her head.
# If you have braces, glasses and acne... don't be disheartened! Wear contacts, use some Proactiv/Accutane, and voila. Girls put a lot of effort into their appearance, perhaps you should do the same. But don't think just because you have braces, glasses, or acne, that the world is over, sometimes it works! Many people believe that braces are a fashion statement!
# Have good posture!
# Don't act tough or try to be a thug. This doesn't attract girls.
# Don't follow her around everywhere. It automatically gives you a reputation as a stalker, and it will freak her out. Even following her just a little can create a stalker rep., depending on how you act. How you act can determine whether she will actually want you to be around her all the time or if even just seeing your face is too much contact. if you know she see's you as a stalker, lay off because trying to do damage control tends to just worsen your situation, instead try to get a friend of your or of hers to help your issue.
# If she just doesn't get that you like her (which most likely won't happen because girls are pretty good at detecting this kind of stuff!) drop hints.
# Don't play games. Waiting a few days to call her , showing up a little late to things or anything like that is only proving you are unreliable, a fake and a loser. Likewise, don't tolerate it if she does any of these things to you.
# Use correct grammar when texting her or talking to her. If you don't then she will think that you aren't very intelligent and that will turn certain girls off. (EG use predictive (T9) text so that you can't spell something wrong in a text, if you're unsure of apostrophes and such just say the full word (e.g. "they're" is "they are", but "their" means a group of peoples' belongings) also if you're not the best at getting this right in conversation then read up on how to speak proper english)
# While it's important to connect to her friends, you must avoid coming off as a player. If a girl's friends do not approve of you, this will influence her opinion of you.
# Don't be weird around her. NOTE: Weird and unusual are different things. Some girls will see your unusual attribute as unique and special, especially if it endears you because it's a secret from one of your friends.
# Share a secret with her and hope she shares one with you (eg strike up a conversation starting with something along the lines of "do you want to know a secret?" If she reciprocates then it shows she trusts you and knows you trust her. DON'T be disheartened if she doesn't share one back straight away, she will take your secret as a sign of your trust and this will build your relationship.
# Don't be a fake.





Warnings


* If you have followed all the steps above and it didn't work, don't feel disheartened. Be proud that you made an effort and accept that it wasn't meant to be. If you decide to still be friends, don't be bitter if she moves on to a new guy.
* Also, it says above that some girls like to talk about themselves- remember, some girls do. Some also would rather not have you obsessing about her hobbies, sports, etc. Be cool. Relate what she's saying to something about you, and then continue the conversation.
* Remember to talk about yourself and your own hobbies etc. That way you come off as a good conversationalist and as a person with a life. DON'T hog the conversations though and be sure to LISTEN and find out about her too.
* Every girl is different! Find out if she likes tattoos before you show her the skull and crossbones tattoo on your chest! (It's probably a bad idea to get a skull and crossbones tattoo on your chest (or elsewhere))
* Never rush her or pressure her or show her a bad attitude.
* Don't talk about her weight or ask her anything related to this subject. Even the girls with the most attractive bodies have insecurities. Even a comment intended as a joke could seriously hurt her feelings. Leave this subject alone.
* At the same time, keep your own weight in check. Eat healthfully and work out. Don't go too crazy with the body building, but being toned never hurts. Watch out for skinny-fat (where you are skinny but flabby).
* Girls love confident guys, but don't be cocky. A cocky guy turns girls off.
* If you have problems with shyness, think of the most confident person you know and of what they would do in each situation. Don't be fake, just change your mindset.
* Girls like that you care enough to buy them something. Don't go overboard and get flowers for her unless the time calls for it or she is very likely to think you did something wrong.
* Some girls don't really know what to talk about with a guy so they might tend to talk about things you don't care about or go on and on about who said what. Don't be mean about it even though you're fighting boredom because it could of taken her a lot of courage to talk to you. Just show interest and change the subject to something more interesting, or politely exit the conversation.
* Do not chew gum when talking to her. You should throw it away, if there are no trash bins, do not chew with your mouth open, pop, or blow bubbles.